Author: Godelieve
Ages 35 to 42. Crisis and Questioning
In gardening, it’s called “pruning.” A plant gets cut back, trimmed, made smaller, and in the process it is made stronger. It may have seemed that we were pressing ahead, and that our power was rising, but this is precisely when things seem to go awry.
During this period, crisis hits. Usually that crisis occurs when we are in our early 40s, as opposed to the mid-30s. In any event, many of us experience being cut down by events that seem beyond our control. And in the process, we experience disappointment and a sense of failure. The most common of these disappointments are divorce, or the collapse of a business, or financial strife. Others suffer a health crisis of one kind or another.
Whatever occurs, many of us experience life-altering setback and lose confidence in ourselves and in life. At this point, we can either embrace our limitations and live smaller lives, or begin again. We are challenged to start anew, to refine and rethink our ways, but to remain committed to our dreams.
We are also asked to expand our vision of life and to embrace a more spiritual approach to living. We did not come into this life to be wholly consumed by materialistic goals and ambitions. We came here to learn and to grow our souls. The soul shakes the cage of life during these years and wakes us up to its presence and its needs.
We are being urged by Spirit to ask a few simple questions: What is the true source of my happiness and all that I want for my life? Is it the material world, or does all I need and want flow from the Great Spirit? If the latter is true, than I must turn to Spirit for all that I need and want. And in the process, I must begin to form a new relationship with my Source.
The spirit is emerging and is starting to take charge of our lives. It is a time of transition. We once lived exclusively from our own will and power. Now we turn increasingly to God for all that we need.
Seven years of Plenty and Seven years of Famine
Genesis 41:1–14
In the first reading (עליה, aliyah), Pharaoh dreamed that he stood by the river, and out came seven fat cattle, who fed in the reed-grass.[4] And then seven lean cattle came up out of the river and ate the seven fat cattle, and Pharaoh awoke.[5] He went back to sleep and dreamed that seven good ears of corn came up on one stalk, and then seven thin ears sprung up after them and swallowed the good ears, and Pharaoh again awoke.[6] In the morning, Pharaoh was troubled and sent for all the magicians and wise men of Egypt and told them his dream, but none could interpret it.[7]Then the chief butler spoke up, confessing his faults and relating how Pharaoh had put him in prison with the baker, and a Hebrew there had interpreted their dreams, correctly predicting the future.[8] Pharaoh sent for Joseph, who shaved, changed clothes, and came to Pharaoh.[9]
Genesis 41:15–38
In the second reading (עליה, aliyah), Pharaoh told Joseph that he had had a dream that none could interpret and had heard that Joseph could interpret dreams, but Joseph said that God would give Pharaoh an answer.[11] Pharaoh told Joseph his dreams, and Joseph told him that the two dreams were one, a prediction of what God was about to do.[12] The seven good cattle and the seven good ears symbolized seven years of plenty, and the seven lean cattle and the seven empty ears symbolized seven years of famine that would consume thereafter.[13] The dream was doubled because God had established the thing and would shortly bring it to pass.[14] Joseph recommended that Pharaoh set over Egypt a man discreet and wise, that he appoint overseers to take up a fifth of the harvests during the years of plenty, and that he store that food for the years of famine.[15] Pharaoh agreed, asking whether anyone could find a man such as Joseph in whom the spirit of God was.[16]
Failure
“Yet failure is essential to success in any endeavor. Failure tests us and allows us to grow. It offers us lessons and guides us along the path of enlightenment. The teachers of the East say that every arrow that hits the bull’s eye is the result of one hundred misses. It is a fundamental Rule of Nature to profit through loss.” p. 139
Robin S. Sharma, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari
That One Lucky Moment
The people who stand before kings may look like they did it all by themselves. But in fact they are invariably the beneficiaries of hidden advantages and extraordinary opportunities and cultural legacies that allow them to learn and work hard and make sense of the world in ways others cannot. It makes a difference where and when we grew up. … It’s not enough to ask what successful people are like, in other words. It is only by asking where they are from that we can unravel the logic behind who succeeds and who doesn’t. p.19
We pretend that success is exclusively a matter of individual merit. But there’s nothing in any of the histories we’ve looked at so far to suggest things are that simple. These are stories, instead, about people who were given a special opportunity to work really hard and seized it, and who happened to come of age at a time when that extraordinary effort was rewarded by the rest of society. Their success was not just of their own making. It was a product of the world in which they grew up. p.67
Outliers are those who have been given opportunities – and who have had the strength and presence of mind to seize them. p.267
Malcolm Gladwell, Outliers – 2008
Charlie Rose: “There is a book out by Malcolm Gladwell, which is called ‘Outliers’, it really is the story of looking at success and performance and talent, people who have achieved something special. … You are sitting here, because you had parents who lived in LA, who were willing to make some sacrifice, who cared about you have a chance to pursue your dreams, but if you had grown up somewhere else, with different kind of parents, you might not be sitting here, as Leo DiCaprio, one of America’s and one of the world’s well-known actors.”
Leonardo DiCaprio: “That and a combination with the fact that you have that one lucky moment. And that you can’t discount. I don’t care what somebody else says, whether somebody has talent or not, or whether they were destined for a certain career, if you don’t get that one opportunity and you where not there at the right time to seize it and you didn’t go for it, none of it would have happened. I would not have the career I have right now whatsoever.”
You got to have Adversity
“You are simply not gonna win all the time, you’re gonna loose some. If somebody says: what do you have to be to be a successful coach. I say: you gotta get over the bad times. If you never had adversity, you ain’t gonna be nothing. You got to have adversity to built your character. And find out how tough you are, and find out how well your judgement is.”
Bobby Bowden, Florida State University – Head Football Coach
The 7 Chakra Life Cycles
“The school of life is the place where you are always given an opportunity to learn. The process of learning makes the journey more interesting and gives you a chance to evolve. Exams in this school can be simply described as crisis years or times of drastic transformations in life. These are the years that test how well you were able to learn the lessons offered by the Universe and how well you have managed to implement the solutions to challenges in life. If you pass the exams, you are offered a chance to get to the next level in order to meet new teachers that help you learn new things about life.
Life Cycles and How to Do Well
in the School of Life
It is great when you have the knowledge on how to pass the tests that crisis years bring, but what if you don’t. The major signs that you are failing one of the exams are problems with health, personal as well as professional life. Even if you have failed the exam, it doesn’t mean that your cycle of life ends. If one of the exams turns out to be an unresolved challenge, you still have a chance to fix it during your next cycle. However, they do tend to pile up which makes it much harder to pass the exams of the previous cycles. Besides, you still have things to deal with during your current cycle. Constant failure can eventually lead to being expelled from the school of life, but sooner or later you would still have to pass the exams, perhaps in your “next life”
Just like everything in the Universe, human life has its cycles. You are probably well aware of different periods or stages in human life: you are born, you go through infancy, childhood, adolescence, and adulthood.
29-35 yrs
During this 7-year “semester”, you begin to exercise your own will. By this time you should have already discovered at least a hint of what your true purpose is. In other words you should know what makes you happy and now you have the energy of your will to make it happen. This is the cycle when you become the creator and you begin to test the limits of your creativity.
You are free to exercise your will within the limits of your mission and under guidance from your Higher Self (5th energy center or chakra is responsible for your own voice and willpower). Your creativity has to be supported by your strong will and by the practical knowledge you have gained from previous experiences. Expression of your will in the right direction (the direction that is given to you by your own Spirit, Higher Self or simply intuition) can produce great results and satisfaction.
You should be careful though. Many people during this cycle find themselves living according to a strict schedule (home-work-home) and that they have almost forgotten how to truly enjoy life. You might get scared that you haven’t accomplished much by 30 years of age (as many people believe that this is the age when they should already have everything: family, house and fulfilling job) and you might even start trying harder when perhaps you need to stop.
You might also find yourself in full disappointment and depression since you didn’t reach the goals that you had set for yourself. It could lead to becoming passive (when it is actually the time to exercise your will) and you might even consider yourself a lost cause – the truth is that the real life hasn’t even started and you are just learning the tools and skills that will help you be happy and successful. Remember – it’s not about the destination, it is about the journey of reaching your full potential.
There are also those who are really scared of making decisions since they believe that it is their last chance to change anything in their life. The choice is once again quite simple – you either become an average member of society or you follow your heart and intuition in realizing your potential through exercising your creativity. You have to carry out inner elections and either vote for a stable boring life or life full of miracles and extraordinary events.
Once again, you are trying to find the correct way through trial and error, but his time you are testing your will and determination. Luck is always a bonus to the one who has courage, perseverance, faith, patience, and passion. During this cycle, you get the chance to make your own choice – and give your final answer – material things or spiritual/creative journey.“
The 12 Stages of the Human Life Cycle
“Early Adulthood (Ages 20-35): Enterprise – It takes enterprise for young adults to accomplish their many responsibilities, including finding a home and mate, establishing a family or circle of friends, and/or getting a good job.
Midlife (Ages 35-50): Contemplation – After many years in young adulthood of following society’s scripts for creating a life, people in midlife often take a break from worldly responsibilities to reflect upon the deeper meaning of their lives, the better to forge ahead with new understanding.”
Source: http://www.institute4learning.com/resources/articles/the-12-stages-of-life/
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The Wheel of Life
In 2014, I was 31 at the time, I met with my first coach. She taught me about ‘the wheel of life’. It was so unlike anything I ever learned in school, it fascinated me instantly. So recently I looked it up and it’s a real thing.
“A researcher observed a young butterfly’s exertion and struggle to get out of its cocoon. He thought he would help and used a scalpel to make a small slit in the cocoon, thus easing the butterfly’s task. Soon, however, he discovered the butterfly could not fly; its wings had not been strengthened through the effort of escape. The butterfly died because it was not strong enough to become airborne.
In a similar manner the struggle and suffering we encounter in life can be strengthening. If it is avoided then our lives may lack the strength and resolve needed to seek and engage transformation. Psychological and spiritual growth is always difficult. It is like the birth process in which something new comes into existence. A new level of maturity is brought into being. Birth involves struggle and with struggle comes not only suffering but strength.
Let’s look at one frequently occurring example of the “Wheel of Life.” 
It is a wheel surrounded by four different images of one person. At the top of the wheel is a well-dressed person, smiling and content. This person is in the position of happiness and success. As the wheel turns clockwise on its axis, the next image is of the same person appearing distressed as he falls head long into the abyss of change and loss. Fortune has turned, and the wheel continues to move. At the bottom of the wheel the person is naked and is in suffering as he lives through the experience of loss. This is the position of despair and loss of hope. Once again the wheel turns and the person rises in hopeful expectation. The person is again clothed and has a look of anticipation as he moves towards the top of the wheel.
These four images represent the phases of life which are in continual movement. These phases can be distinguished from the stages of life. Life stages are broad divisions such as infancy, childhood, adolescence, adult, midlife, and old age. The four phases of the wheel occur within these stages in an on going cyclical manner. As individuals living in the world, we are always at one of the life four positions: Happy, Loss (Descending), Suffering, or Hope (Ascending). Because the wheel is continually turning, we can assess our present position and look ahead to where we will be next. If we are presently happy, it will not last. If we are falling, it may get worse. When we are suffering, we may get through it to rise again in hope. Happiness will be regained, but the wheel also continues to turn. The cycle is repeated, and such is life.”
The Surf of Life 