It will all work out in the end

What if you let your life unfold according to its natural flow? Have you ever noticed, in hindsight that things don’t always turn out the way you want them to, or when you want them to, but they always work out in the end? When I take a look at my life I certainly do.

  • It had been my life’s dream ever since I was twelve to spend a year in the US as an exchange student. You could see my disappointment when I arrived at the airport and there was no host family to pick me up. I spend my first few weeks in school asking around if someone knew a family I could stay with. Never could I have imagined ending up with the Kubacki’s, vacating in the Virgin Islands and going to Notre Dame football games. If my exchange organization’s representative never would have messed up, I never would have taken the initiative to go look for a family myself and I wouldn’t have lived the American Dream like I did.
  • When I got to University I wasn’t enrolled for International Business like I was set out to, so I had to pick Economics instead. Within a month I realized I was never going to pass the quantitative methods classes, so I switched to Law, which I utterly failed after my Freshman year. I ended up getting a Bachelor’s in European Studies, passing my GMAT exam and graduating with a Master’s in International Business anyways.

Who would have thought? But the story continued in my professional life.

  •  At the beginning of my professional career I always wanted to work for Nike, until one day I received an e-mail, they were hiring. Forty-eight hours or so later I was hired and I ended up spending the next seven years at the company.
  •  While working for Nike I always imagined working at WHQ. The night before I left for Portland, to seek out job opportunities, this girl left the company and I could take her place.

Of course these are the short versions of the stories. There was a lot more to it, but in hind sight it all worked out. Amazing, isn’t it?

And even though life is not always easy, maybe Steve Jobs was right and the dots will connect in your future.

  • When I had to decide to leave the US and Nike, I worried about how to get all my stuff back to the other side of the ocean, and how to break the lease of my car and my apartment. I didn’t know where to get the money or how to make the arrangements. But then Nike offered to pay for my relocation and I had enough money in my 401K saved to pay for other expenses. Problem solved.

I can go on like this for a while, but you get the picture. You can strive and try to control your environment, but there are powers at stake in the Universe, in nature, bigger than your own little self. And sometimes the outcome is beyond your imagination. Don’t worry too much about how you are going to get there, just have a clear picture of your dream in mind, and respond to what is handed to you along the way. That is ‘Surfing Life’.

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Go with the flow

‘Taoism or Daoism is a philosophical or religious tradition of Chinese origin which emphasizes living in harmony with the Dao, or ‘the way’.  … Taosim … is a teaching about the various disciplines for achieving “perfection” by becoming one with the unplanned rhythms of the universe. … in general tend to emphasize wu wei (action without intention)’.


‘The idea behind non-action goes against the Western ideal of forcing and working harder and harder to get results. We are encouraged to be ambitious, to take control and to strife. Meanwhile many people suffer from depression, anxiety disorders and sleep disorders. Are we burning ourselves out? We look down on passivity and often mistake it for laziness, but these are different things. When we look at nature, doing nothing makes way more sense than we tend to think. Results do not equal the amount of energy we spend; results are the consequences of a series of actions. Funny thing about this is that many of these actions come naturally and a task doesn’t need more human intervention than necessary to steer it in the right direction. Isn’t it so that many problems solve themselves? Taoism compares life to a river, the river already has a course or several courses and once we find ourselves in that river we can swim against the current, we can hold on to a branch, or we can let go and go along with the stream. Most of our lives we swim against the current, we don’t even realize it. Our mind believes that it can and should control the environment in order to survive, which is kind of egocentric, because the vast majority of processes within as well as outside ourselves are not in our control. I mean, let’s face it, we don’t control our bodily processes, like digestion, blood flow or the healing of wounds. We don’t control other people, we don’t control the future, we don’t even control who we fall in love with and what people we find attractive. Everything outside our own faculty just goes into some direction, sometimes by intelligence, but mostly in a natural course. When we go along with the current we align ourselves with this natural course. Which is the path of least resistance. It gives nature a chance to unfold without us resisting it. So the Taosist way is rather navigating through the river, instead of trying to control it.’



Ages 35 to 42.  Crisis and Questioning  

In gardening, it’s called “pruning.”  A plant gets cut back, trimmed, made smaller, and in the process it is made stronger.   It may have seemed that we were pressing ahead, and that our power was rising, but this is precisely when things seem to go awry.

During this period, crisis hits.   Usually that crisis occurs when we are in our early 40s, as opposed to the mid-30s.  In any event, many of us experience being cut down by events that seem beyond our control.  And in the process, we experience disappointment and a sense of failure.  The most common of these disappointments are divorce, or the collapse of a business, or financial strife.  Others suffer a health crisis of one kind or another.

Whatever occurs, many of us experience life-altering setback and lose confidence in ourselves and in life.  At this point, we can either embrace our limitations and live smaller lives, or begin again.  We are challenged to start anew, to refine and rethink our ways, but to remain committed to our dreams.

We are also asked to expand our vision of life and to embrace a more spiritual approach to living.  We did not come into this life to be wholly consumed by materialistic goals and ambitions.  We came here to learn and to grow our souls.  The soul shakes the cage of life during these years and wakes us up to its presence and its needs.

We are being urged by Spirit to ask a few simple questions:  What is the true source of my happiness and all that I want for my life?  Is it the material world, or does all I need and want flow from the Great Spirit?   If the latter is true, than I must turn to Spirit for all that I need and want.  And in the process, I must begin to form a new relationship with my Source.

The spirit is emerging and is starting to take charge of our lives.   It is a time of transition.  We once lived exclusively from our own will and power.  Now we turn increasingly to God for all that we need.


Seven years of Plenty and Seven years of Famine

Genesis 41:1–14

In the first reading (עליה, aliyah), Pharaoh dreamed that he stood by the river, and out came seven fat cattle, who fed in the reed-grass.[4] And then seven lean cattle came up out of the river and ate the seven fat cattle, and Pharaoh awoke.[5] He went back to sleep and dreamed that seven good ears of corn came up on one stalk, and then seven thin ears sprung up after them and swallowed the good ears, and Pharaoh again awoke.[6] In the morning, Pharaoh was troubled and sent for all the magicians and wise men of Egypt and told them his dream, but none could interpret it.[7]Then the chief butler spoke up, confessing his faults and relating how Pharaoh had put him in prison with the baker, and a Hebrew there had interpreted their dreams, correctly predicting the future.[8] Pharaoh sent for Joseph, who shaved, changed clothes, and came to Pharaoh.[9]

Genesis 41:15–38

In the second reading (עליה, aliyah), Pharaoh told Joseph that he had had a dream that none could interpret and had heard that Joseph could interpret dreams, but Joseph said that God would give Pharaoh an answer.[11] Pharaoh told Joseph his dreams, and Joseph told him that the two dreams were one, a prediction of what God was about to do.[12] The seven good cattle and the seven good ears symbolized seven years of plenty, and the seven lean cattle and the seven empty ears symbolized seven years of famine that would consume thereafter.[13] The dream was doubled because God had established the thing and would shortly bring it to pass.[14] Joseph recommended that Pharaoh set over Egypt a man discreet and wise, that he appoint overseers to take up a fifth of the harvests during the years of plenty, and that he store that food for the years of famine.[15] Pharaoh agreed, asking whether anyone could find a man such as Joseph in whom the spirit of God was.[16] 



“Yet failure is essential to success in any endeavor. Failure tests us and allows us to grow. It offers us lessons and guides us along the path of enlightenment. The teachers of the East say that every arrow that hits the bull’s eye is the result of one hundred misses. It is a fundamental Rule of Nature to profit through loss.” p. 139

Robin S. Sharma, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari